Thank you for letting this piece move through you, and in the direction it did, Audra. I resonate with the feeling of numbness I experienced when the end of a long-term relationship and the loss of my father (to cancer) hit me—six months after both events happened simultaneously. I’m not saying this is your experience, I’ve noticed however that grief has this mysterious way of both protecting us, walling us off from the inexplicable and confounding sense of loss or preemptive loss, and hitting us all at once. Either way, in my experience, it can be completely and utterly debilitating. Sending peace and ease your way. 🙏
Thank you for reading, Alans, and sharing your experience. I really do believe that numbness has a mysterious wisdom all it's own, and I trust it. Appreciate your perspective on this.
Beautiful, Audra, such a pleasure to read your voice. My father took a very long time to die (and during that time a secret sibling emerged) - anticipatory grief, in many ways, was/has been harder to navigate than grief once the person has died. It's just as valid and yet it can feel hard to ask for what you need from others because no one has died. Keep asking for what you need and please keep writing <3
Thank you for letting this piece move through you, and in the direction it did, Audra. I resonate with the feeling of numbness I experienced when the end of a long-term relationship and the loss of my father (to cancer) hit me—six months after both events happened simultaneously. I’m not saying this is your experience, I’ve noticed however that grief has this mysterious way of both protecting us, walling us off from the inexplicable and confounding sense of loss or preemptive loss, and hitting us all at once. Either way, in my experience, it can be completely and utterly debilitating. Sending peace and ease your way. 🙏
Thank you for reading, Alans, and sharing your experience. I really do believe that numbness has a mysterious wisdom all it's own, and I trust it. Appreciate your perspective on this.
Beautiful, Audra, such a pleasure to read your voice. My father took a very long time to die (and during that time a secret sibling emerged) - anticipatory grief, in many ways, was/has been harder to navigate than grief once the person has died. It's just as valid and yet it can feel hard to ask for what you need from others because no one has died. Keep asking for what you need and please keep writing <3
Thank, Amy. I appreciate the kindness and the creative encouragement.
Love the evocation of the griefscape...some things thrown into relief, others obscured, and it is always shifting
Thank you so much. For this exactly. I needed it and am so grateful for you
You are welcome. Thank you for being here and in it together.